Does anyone else get "punished" for paying child support responsibly? ?

Ask your husband to file papers thru the child support agency. He can have it set up so that the support is deducted from his weekly paycheck and direct deposited into her account. I think he owes you that much. His ex-wife is a fortunate woman to be able to trust him with his payments without going thru the agency - but if he's going to pay it anyway - why would he not help you out by going this route?